Ever Offer an Olive Branch?

[MsTabbyKats]

I'm thinking of e-mailing a woman I haven't spoken to in about 6 years.........

The reason we stopped talking:

In my opinion....she thought she knew everything (like...she told me how to do a Schedule D..yeah)

She really isn't the brightest person (I'd say a bit under average)....but no matter what you said....she would claim "to know"....and then I'd go home and e-mail her "the truth". For instance....she claimed a certain school didn't offer "something". I sent her a link to their schedule, clearly showing it being taught.

In her opinion:

Because she is a very fancy person, and I don't like "fancy". (She doesn't put salad dressing bottles or ketchup bottles on the table...but put the contents into decanters. I asked her if "the queen" was coming over for dinner?")

Anyway...after I didn't her from her for months I sent her a "how are you" e-mail. No response. (She had several medical issues.)

A few months later....I sent her another "how are you" e-mail....and I got a very nasty response. Very insulting.

The next week...I got some kind of apology....where she apologized for "telling me these bad things about me"....but not apologizing for saying them. (Meaning....she didn't say..."I'm sorry I called you a blank blank. But..."I shouldn't have told you that you are a blank blank." Then she asked to get together for lunch.

I ignored it. Never responded.

Now...it's pre-tax season and the beautiful hot days of summer are gone....and I'm bored (which is why I'm posting this).

But, I'm curious....has anyone ever offered someone an olive branch, with good results. Or, is it better "to let sleeping dogs lie"?

And...another "nothing better to do thread" by MsTabbyKats!

[mcb39]

IMHO, she already offered the olive branch and you didn't accept it. Let sleeping dogs lie.

[Catherine]

Do you really *want* her back in your life? If so, WHY?

[Jack from Ohio]

Are you missing a sharp pain in your back? Why would you want her back? GET A GRIP!!

[Guest Taxed]

>>> Now...it's pre-tax season and the beautiful hot days of summer are gone....and I'm bored (which is why I'm posting this)

Did you get your 2013 tax software? If not you will not be bored once you start messing with it!

[MsTabbyKats]

Looks like the majority rules........

But...she didn't offer an olive branch. She said "You are a blank blank and a blank. But, I shouldn't have told you that you are a blank blank and a blank. Even though you are a blank blank and a blank, if you want, I will go to lunch with you."

I'm going with the majority here...no olive branch!

[RitaB]

But...she didn't offer an olive branch. She said "You are a blank blank and a blank. But, I shouldn't have told you that you are a blank blank and a blank. Even though you are a blank blank and a blank, if you want, I will go to lunch with you."

Well, she sounds even better than my first husband. I see no problem here.

[joanmcq]

You don't like her for what seems to be some pretty petty reasons and let her know this. She said some things back which you found insulting, including the way she worded her apology. IMHO, you're nitpicking. Now you want to hang out because you're bored. Seems to me she's better off without your 'friendship'.

[MsTabbyKats]

You don't like her for what seems to be some pretty petty reasons and let her know this. She said some things back which you found insulting, including the way she worded her apology. IMHO, you're nitpicking. Now you want to hang out because you're bored. Seems to me she's better off without your 'friendship'.

Oh Joan....I just gave one example with the decanters.

The truth is that she isn't very bright and has limited knowledge....but talked and argued about everything as if she were an expert. (Taxes, politics, astronomy, clothing, degrees, dental, medical....not stating her opinions but stating inaccurate facts).

I didn't mention the things she had told me...such as...(when I was voting for Bush and she supported Kerry) "I would never speak to anyone who is going to vote for Bush"....or, that she (admitted herself...and that her mother told her) speaks before thinking all the time and insults people as a result.

But...I was really wondering "how she was"...more than hanging out with her. She is bi-polar with several other medical conditions.

It's was really wrong of me to try to explain a "several year" friendship with such a summary.....and it would be purposeless for me to contact her.

But...thanks for your input!

ETA...I'm sure she's better off without me too. I don't think "know it alls" like to be told that they don't know it all......even if told via "links" to correct their inaccuracies.

[Guest Taxed]

>>> "I would never speak to anyone who is going to vote for Bush".

This woman is something? I have many friends who voted for Bush and they are 100% opposite of my politics! We actually enjoy arguing the finer points of politics than just gossiping about nonsense!

[kcjenkins]

Tabby, you just show you are a nice person by even caring how she is feeling. Maybe her non-apology 'apology was a result of her bi-polar problems. But my advice, which is, of course, worth what you paid for it, is to let that sleeping dog be. Especially now, with tax season just around the corner. No reason to add stress, enjoy the holidays, do something with someone who needs a bit of help getting out, which will make you both feel better. Make some cookies for an elderly client, perhaps. Or do something nice just for yourself, a spa day perhaps?